You Don't Get a Second Chance to Raise the Same Child

A member of the popular website Reddit has posted an open letter to the baby she is scheduled to abort this Friday. The member, whose subscriber name is scaredthrowingaway, feels she is too young to have this baby, but looks forward to the day she can raise children.

Here is her post:

Little Thing:

I can feel you in there. I’ve got twice the appetite and half the energy. It breaks my heart that I don’t feel the enchantment that I’m supposed to feel. I am both sorry and not sorry.

I am sorry that this is goodbye. I’m sad that I’ll never get to meet you. You could have your father’s eyes and my nose and we could make our own traditions, be a family. But, Little Thing, we will meet again. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you.

Little Thing, I want you to be happy. More than I want good things for myself, I want the best things for the future. That’s why I can’t be your mother right now. I am still growing myself. It wouldn’t be fair to bring a new life into a world where I am still haunted by ghosts of the life I’ve lived. I want you to have all the things I didn’t have when I was a child. I want you to be better than I ever was and more magnificent than I ever could be.

I can’t do to you what was done to me: Plant a seed made of love and spontaneity into a garden, and hope that it will grow on only dreams. Love and spontaneity are beautiful, but they have little merit. And while I have plenty of dreams to go around, dreams are not an effective enough tool for you to build a better tomorrow. I can’t bring you here. Not like this.

I love you, Little Thing, and I wish the circumstances were different. I promise I will see you again, and next time, you can call me Mom.

It breaks my heart that twice in this letter she indicates that she can raise this child later. She says she will meet this child again one day when she is ready to have a baby. Aside from the fact that Friday’s abortion can actually leave her unable to conceive in the future, she also needs to realize that once this baby is aborted, “Little Thing” will not ever be hers to raise.

Each conception is unique. Every zygote is genetically complete, and whether she understands or not, her Little Thing already has gender, hair and eye color, height, and every other genetic factor mapped out. This baby, which is momentarily safely growing inside her, has a DNA blueprint that no one else will ever have. To abort this baby now, for convenience or any other reason, will eliminate a unique individual.

In other words, you don’t get a second chance to raise the same child.

Sacredthrowingaway, if you read this post, please reconsider. If you want a child to call you Mom, look no further than the child you are currently sustaining inside your womb. If you do not feel you can be a Mom right now, please know you have other options. I personally know people who would love to love your child.

The last thing she needs is insensitive judgment, so if you are on Reddit, please don’t attack her in the comments section. I’m also calling on believers to earnestly pray between now and Friday. Pray that she changes her mind and gives her child a fighting chance.

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